Can't Stop crying

Ok, so I dunno if i'm depressed or not. maybe this doesn't count as depression, but it's upsetting me a ton! I really like this guy (3 years older than me) and his best friend (2 years older than me) is obsessed with me. I feel horrible about not liking the guy who likes me, and the guy that I like is making me feel horrible about it. Like really really really horrible! Like, suicidal, hate myself, wanna kill myself horrible. Today I broke out crying in school, and my dad works at my school. he wants to know what's wrong but i don't want to tell him. i don't want to break out crying again, but i've done it like three times today, just started crying, because no one understands what i'm going through except like two of my friends. i feel horrible about breaking down, but i can't stop just crying. what should i do?

[Paprika]

Hey Jazmine,

You said in your post that the guy you like makes you feel bad because you don't like the other guy who likes you, right?

If So then I belive you should take a moment alone, in your room with your eyes closed and think about how bad he has bade you feel and then with that in mind think about if you really like a guy who makes you feel bad about yourself.

Also, please tell me how they second guy (2 years older than you) dose he display his obsesiveness to you & how dose the other guy make you feel bad (like what dose he say or do).

Ok, the guy who likes me has out-and-out said to me before, "I love you." I told him not to say it kuz it freaked me out. He's told me he liked me, but he's never tried physical contact (thank god!). The guy that I like (well, i dunno if i still like him). Ok, this is a long story, kinda. He likes this other girl and is obsessed with her. She's a year older than me. Well, i've had a lotta probs with her and people know that. I'm not tryin 2 sound rude or conceited or anything, but i am generally a very nice person to everyone. I thought this girl and me were very close and all, but it turns out the whole time she was talkin trash about me behind my back and all this other stuff. Finally she just started ignoring me. As you can see, i have many issues with this girl. It's not my fault though. I still attempt to tolerate her and i do. So anyhow, this guy is like, you're making the guy that likes you choose between you and her (i think he should choose her!). then he sed, why can't you and her just get along? in case you can't tell, that's a very very sensitive subject for me. Not only do i seriously not get along with her, the guy i really really liked is OBSESSED with her. he's also always trying to get me to go out with the guy that likes me, although i've already said i don't feel that way for me. That's why he makes me feel bad. Thanx for respondin.
Signin' off,
Jazz

[Paprika]

Before I can give you a almost-foolproof anser to help you I need to better understand some things so I'm going to do this:

David - The guy who you like but is obsessed with that other girl.

Joe - The guy who is obsessed with you but you don't like him.

Rachel - The girl who David is obsessed with and the girl who you have been having problems with.

We will use these names to identify the people.

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Now, you said that you don't know if you like David anymore - this is a good thing because since he is obsessed with Rachel its obvious that he has no self-control and dose not like you back. Because he dose not like you back I think it would be wise for you to stay away from him and break off ties with him directly, that way he will stop making you feel bad and you won't have to be in relations with Rachel (By the way, when you stop talking and hanging around with David she should dissapere right along with him)because of hanging with him.

Now, what I need to know dose David have anthor girl he likes or a girl friend or someting?

1. Would it be easy to be easy for you to avoid Rachel if you didn't talk to David anymore?

BTW, please register before you respond again.

[DantziJean]

I know how you feel and can empathize with you. I have had a boyfriend for three years and one night for no reason he broke up with me and started seeing another girl. This other girl and I had been friends but like the situation with your friend, things were strange and akward between us.

Then one night she really lays it on heavy. Hitting on my now ex, crying on his shoulder and pretending to need him. She told him that he was the only person she knew at the party we were at, a load of bull :roll: Anyway, all my friends were pissed about her doing this to him. I was furious, but tried not to say anything it's his life and I didn't have any say in it at all. This however, did not stop me from wanting to punch her every time I saw her. :twisted: I think it is good that you have not wanted to punch this girl out for having the attentions of the guy you like.

Anyway, as to my story, it has a happy ending with a reunion and a getting back together with me and my boyfriend.

If you really feel this way confront him, if he turns you down there are plenty more men out there who deserve your attentions more then he does. It's his loss, seriously.

[Paprika]

Its sad how guys can't seem to make the right decision about who to go out with and its sad that they sometimes can't read between the lines and see whats really going on. I'm a guy and have been hit on quite a few time. Each time a played along - I'm tring my best from now on to just resist, it would do me no good to give in.

[DantziJean]

I don't think we can blame the men in these situations, it's just the way the cards fall sometimes. A realtionship needs work and more then just warm fuzzy feelings. It's hard learning how to love and the dating game is even harder. Hitting on people is mostly just for fun, from the woman's point of view anyway and a way to gain male attention that women rarely see. The trick is not to put your heart on the line to early or too late and before you do you anything make sure what you feel is reciprocated.

[Paprika]

I wish she would come back though...